1 John 4: 18-19
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us.”
Getting into a new relationship can be scary. You are putting your trust and you are relying on someone that has the ability to disappoint you. But it is important to limit those fears. We must trust God in all things, and that includes relationships. We must open ourselves up to getting hurt, because, whether or not the relationship works out, it is a part of God’s plan.
Hebrews 10:24-25
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
When you find a boyfriend, it is important to keep in mind what makes for a happy and healthy relationship. I would say one of the most important aspects of a relationship is encouraging one another in faith. If having a boyfriend is getting in the way of growing faith, then not only will your spiritual relationship suffer but so will your romantic one. So show love by encouraging one another to live faithfully.
1 Corinthians 10:13
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”
This verse is good to keep in mind when it comes expectations. I have had friends that have made excuses for their boyfriend’s questionable choices like “he is just immature.” But this verses clearly tells us that we all have the ability to resist temptation. This temptation might not be other women. This temptation could be anything you are not uncomfortable with your boyfriend doing like partying or smoking. If there are things that you would like your boyfriend to resist, make that clear. And don’t lower your expectations because he does have the ability to meet them.
1 John 3:18
"Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth."
This verse lays out an important rule that I think applies to any relationship – actions speak louder than words. I think this is important to remember as a girlfriend because you want your boyfriend to know that you care about him. But it is also important because it points out that you cannot rely on your boyfriend’s words. For example, if you lay out your expectations (let’s go back to the partying or smoking as an example) and he agrees, do not rely solely on his words. Let his actions demonstrate his feelings for you and let them be the ultimate factor.
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